"What is the bravest thing you ever said?" asked the boy
"HELP" said the horse (Charlie Mackesey)
Do you feel stuck in your life right now? Lack purpose? Are you repeating the same old patterns and behaviours that prevent you from living a fuller, more meaningful life and are just not able to shake them?
Are you experiencing a major life transition and would like some guidance to navigate the complexities of this?
Do you feel life has been getting you down for a while, or are you on the brink of a burn-out? You know something needs to change, but you just don’t know what or how.
Perhaps you’re suffering from a break-up or divorce, and wondering why this loss is affecting you so much? Or have you been living alone for a long time and long for a partner, but you’ve lost your confidence to start dating? Or you're are wondering why you are still single? Are you in a relationship, but feel lonely and disconnected and struggle to have your needs met?
If you’re used to solving problems on your own, or struggle to turn for help, the thought of going to therapy, to talk to a stranger, may seem like a huge, possibly shameful barrier to overcome. Or just the step you need to change that pattern.
If you are convincing yourself that your problem isn't that bad, that other people are suffering more than you, and that investing in therapy seems so self-indulgent – then therapy might just be that first step to changing that belief.
If you are struggling, I hope you can take that first step. Very often it can help to seek a professional who can support you to look at your situation through a new or different lens, to help you make sense of your thoughts and feelings and to explore your underlying needs, including what is holding you back so that you can start moving towards and creating the life you long for. I believe therapy can be a place where you can learn a lot about yourself, and the therapeutic relationship is a very important and integral part of this process – finding the right person for you to work with, building trust and connection.
"If you're worried about the cost of going for it, you should see the price of staying exactly where you are". (Unknown)
Some common topics I work with include:
My special interest is in that vast area of all things relating and relationships. Here are some topics I work with:
The core of my work lies in Gestalt therapy – I especially attend to your physical experience of the here-and-now, and the (unconscious) ways you make and avoid contact with yourself and your ‘problem’, and also with me. Next to Gestalt, I draw on 20 years’ experience of other therapeutic and spiritual practices, including Somatic Experiencing®. I work in a trauma informed way - this means I pay attention to your body’s physical and physiological responses to overwhelm, safety, threat and connection. I think my working style can be summarised as non-judgmental and empathic balanced with appropriate confrontation and a hearty dose of humour.
We start with a 60 minute intake. The purpose of the intake is to get to know each other a bit better, to explore your reason and goals for therapy and to get a first impression of each other in order to decide if there is a click for us to work together.
It’s difficult to say up front how long therapy will take for you. It differs from person to person and also depends on the nature of your question or problem.
We start with 5 sessions that normally take place every two weeks, and in some cases weekly. After that, we take time to evaluate your experience, how therapy is helping (or not) and what next steps are needed.
I am available Monday-Thursday during daytime hours. The fee for therapy is GBP 110 for a session of 60 minutes. Online payment is made in advance of the session by direct bank transfer
I offer a free 15 minute zoom chat if you would like to meet me first or ask me any questions.